Changing Self Talk & Behavior (Part 2): Wellness Starts In Your Mind

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In my 1/22/06 post (scroll down to What Does A Two Year Old Birthday Mean...) I talked about the foolish lies I told myself so I didn't have to change my behavior and get back on a healthy program and get back in shape two years after my son was born.

Parents get very busy. Exercise and nutrition take a back seat, until one's tolerance level hits zero. I once told a friend that I can still get into my pre-baby jeans, except I am "fluffier" in different areas of my body. We both chuckled over that.

Once the chuckling was over I faced the truth that my child will pick up my eating habits and it doesn't matter how many times I say, "I'll worry about it later." Why start him on bad habits now that will affect him the rest of his life. I believe what I demonstrate for him now will shape his behavior as an adult. I knew breast feeding was important to a baby's health. But, I believe it goes much farther. Breast feeding requires you to be there physically for your baby. It is the beginning of a bonding that lasts a lifetime between mother and child. It is important to be there physically as he grows up. I want to be there for my baby daily. I want him to see my face when he wakes up everyday. Baby sitters and day care are options for parents, but studies caution us not to disreguard our influence on our children at any age. My being there tells him he can look to me for comfort and guidance. A pacifier is not an equal substitute. The TV lets time go by without the learning and interaction a parent can provide. These things may give us temporary relief during hectic days, but it will also will teach him to look for artificial comfort such as cigarettes, foods, alcohol, gambling, etc. This is how we develop our vices, or habits. In reality they are addictions when we use them in place of something lacking in our lives. Right now I am lacking good time management. By not exercising and practicing self discipline with my eating habits, I am putting my health at risk and the future health of my son is at risk, as well.

Everyone has their "ah-ha" moment at different times. Mine came when I could not zip up my jeans. So, a little vanity can be a big tool in saving my health. I decided it was time to give up my excuses (lies) and make time to work out. I decided I can take the time to make sure I have extra fruits and vegetables that are ready to eat on hand. I decided to buy the grilled chicken salad at the drive thru instead of the double cheese burger.

Mike and I both started watching what we eat. Bread and pasta are off-limits but we allow ourselves to cheat once a week. Now it is a challenge to make interesting meals without bread. He makes sure he walks more. I started to exercise with the FitTV workout shows. I decided to talk myself out of snacking by acknowledging that I do get tired but I know time will go by quickly enough and the desire to grab a treat will go away. Telling myself I can keep doing the same things and get the same results is simple motivation.

What I Have Found

I started my No Bread plan one week before Christmas. In two weeks I was zipping up my jeans. That was a nice start keep me going. More importatly, I felt better without any cravings in between meals, and feeling fuller after eating less food. The work outs have been fun. They are challenging and I am learning some interesting moves that will prevent boredom. It feels good to be moving more. It has been about five weeks. My clothes have not felt any looser, which leads me to believe I can bump up my work out frequency and intesnsity. I still have my hot coacoa habit and I can cut down on that. I definetly need to get to bed earlier since adequate sleep has been shown to aid in weight loss. I am going to keep going. If anyone wants to join me, send an email message or post a comment. It makes a difference to receive support from others.

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Excellus BlueCross BlueShield published a report in its newsletter titled, "The Facts about Potential Savings from Generic Drugs in Upstate New York." It is posted on the website: Excellus BC BS.

It states if every county in upstate New York increased its generic drug use $880 million would be saved. In Central New York the savings would be $289 million. Imagine what this money could be used for. Would this amount of money help lower our overall health insuracne premiums?

Chiropractic is a drugless health profession. That is one of the reasons why I chose to become a doctor of chiropractic. Another reason for choosing chirorpactic is because of its whole body approach. I work with patients to develop their entire wellness outlook from mind, to body, to spirit. Everyone is born with an innate intelligence that functions independently without us thinking about it. Innate intelligence cannot be synthesized in a laboratory test tube. You can only be born with it. It is also up to us to nurture our innate intelligence and refrain from exposing our bodies to unnatural, toxic substances as well as destructuve, toxic thoughts. I prefer to work with people on this holistic, whole body level because it allows me to be more involved in their progress as human beings on a life long journey of growth. That may be a selfish attribute, but it keeps me passionate, enerigzing me to help as many people as I can.

Back to the Excellus study. While the report concentrates on swtiching from name brand drugs to generic drugs, I take that thought farther by encouraging my patients to avoid all drugs possible. Another reason I chose to be a doctor in a drugless profession is because I do not want the responsibilty of caring for patients while they are taking drugs with side effects prescribed by me. I do not want to live with the thought that my recommending a drug to someone may have caused irreversible consequences. It also saves me money on my malpractice premiums for taking on this serious responsibility.

Could the $880 million in savings be increased even more by not using drugs? If half the people stopped taking prescription drugs, then an estimated $1.3 billion could be saved? That is close to the annual budget of my local government. In 50 states that could amount to over $65 billion.

Since most diseases of our time are preventable and caused by life style choices, is this a sensible ideal to strive for? I believe it is. It requires a wellness mind-set and for some it is a "mind-shift." There is a paragidm shift ocurring right now in the wellness industry. The public is damanding a better way to feel good, look good, help care for the environment and remain promote positive thinking. Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People talks about paradigm shifts and how evolutionary they are.

If I can get people reading books, like Dr. Stephen Covey's book, instead of taking drugs, we can all benefit. My wellness coaching program helps people shift their habits to help themselves which in turn helps society on a grande scale. If it seems impossible, wellness coaching can "chunk it down" into doable steps. Every famous athelete has a coach. It only makes sense to benefit from a coach, too!

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What Does A Two Year Old Birthday Mean for Wellness?

Dr. Lisa Ann Homic, M.Ed. D.C. and son, Eirne, 20 months (Sept. '05)

What Does A Two Year Old Birthday Mean for Wellness?

Eirne turned two last week. It was a good time for me to reflect on what that means. It is fabulous having this little guy in my life. He is better entertainment than the TV. Watching his cute performances is quite interesting. Mike and I smile at each other and say,"Isn't he cute?" When I smile at Mike and he smiles back I think about how meaningful our marriage is to me as we share the journey of raising this small wonder. Love, sharing, and making our part of the world a beautiful place to live is wellness mind and spirit.

Celebrating his two year birthday also reminds me that I have spent almost three years being preoccupied with other people and ignoring what I need to take care of myself. My pregnancy was the most exhausting experience. When magazines and TV kept spouting how wonderful studies on exercise during pregnancy I told myself, "They're kidding, right?" I was lucky if I could walk through the grocery store for 15 minutes, in every trimester of my pregnancy. I managed to walk the dog and enjoy the fresh air while praying that it helped my pgregancy induced hypertension, which was only a physiological response to being pregnant (but that is another story). Besides the tiredness and high blood pressure, I had no other problems. After Eirne was born, I my energy was back to normal, even on little sleep. But, I was not exercising and I was not losing the weight despite all the press about breast feeding and getting your pre-pregancy body back.

I knew I needed this extra weight for now. There was a good bit of energy stored up in my fat cells just in case I needed it. Since I was living the life of a workaholic CEO: being a mom 24 hours a day, keeping up with everything else in the house and going back to treating patients part-time, my extra weight reminded me that I was a human trying to do too much.

As a busy adult, I often say to myself, "I'll get to that later." Translation: that means I am lying through my teeth and just trying to sound good. This is worse than procrastinating. Most procrastinators establish a time frame when to get things done. I was not doing anything.

I walked in nice weather for about six months. Then I was only walking once a week. Last fall I stopped completely. If I took the dog out, he was lucky if he got a quarter mile stroll. Just before Christmas I finally stopped the denial when I could not zip up my jeans. I hadn't only quit exercising, I was snacking once or twice a day on foods my parents wouldn't allow. The dialougue inside of me went something like this: "I don't care. I can worry about it later. It's only one sugary, high carb snack. Today I am really hungry and I want to get through the afternoon. I love the taste of soda! It's an easy to grab snack. I don't have time right now to get something healthier. I'm only one size bigger than normal. So what!"

I could go on and on and on with excuses. Finally the tight jeans stopped me. For a while I squeezed into them and when it was actually painful to force my stomach into my jeans I still didn't care. When I could not move the zipper at all, I changed my self talk and my behavior. To be continued...

Write Your Own "Best Teller": Exploring the Land of Me

Exploring the Land of Me
By
Guest Writer: Ellen Taliaferro, M.D.

Write Your Own "Best Teller"

Tired of the odd same-o, same-o resolutions as the New Year looms near? This coming year, think of a new adventure that you might undertake. How about an Expedition into the Land of Me? Your initial investment in this endeavor consists only of the time to take that inner journey down memory lane and a commitment to log your observations and discoveries.
Most New Year resolutions revolve around feeling better or looking better. This proposed resolution fits right into these categories. Dr. Robert Sommer notes in his 2003 article, The Use of Autobiography in Psychotherapy, a recent explosion of published memoirs reflect the “public hunger for authenticity, a preference for the real over the fictional life.”
Memoir writing serves to provide therapeutic relief for you, the author, because you will gain insight and experience the benefits and healing effects of disclosure. When you produce a well-written and interesting memoir, you also give the gifts on understanding and healing to the reader by providing therapeutic guidance that the reader can use for self help or in their quest to help a family member and friend.
Other benefits noted in Dr. Sommer’s article, include:
An inside view of the issues and challenges of the author
Personal and strong story lines that pull the reader through the book
Identification with the author

I believe that the compelling narrative provides reader safety as well. It gives the reader enough distance to see similar issues in their own life while at the same time sympathizing with the struggles of the author and rejoicing in the success of the author. Vicarious victory may be the next best thing to “being there.”
So pull out your pen and paper and start writing your own “Best Teller” right now.
© Copyright 2006 Ellen Taliaferro, MD.

You have permission to publish part or all of this article electronically or in print, in your newsletter, on your website, or in your e-book, as long you maintain the hyperlinks in the article for web or e-book publication and include the following information: “Written by Ellen Taliaferro, MD, author, speaker, and expert witness. Dr T can be contacted through http://www.healthaftertrauma.com/.” A copy of your reprint or publication would be appreciated.
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Go Somewhere to Recharge: Wellness Vacations Can Be Simple

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One place I like is Creekside Books & Coffee. The staff is always helpful and friendly. The food is delicious. It is an easy escape when I want to hide out behind a book shelf and dive into a good read.

Mini-vacations are the healthy way to break up the daily grind and clear the mind. It doesn't have to be far away or take very long. Get away from the work place for awhile. Take advantage of one of those unexpected breaks and take off to your mini-vacation destination.

Where are your favorite hide-aways? Leave a comment and tell us about it. Give a suggestion for us to try. (If you really want to keep it a secret, ok. ) Just remember get there once in a while. It makes a difference. Americans work more hours each week than they did just a few decades ago. Simple relaxation is needed more than ever.

Happy Hiding!

Welcome Guest Writer: Joyce Brown

Guest Writer: Joyce Brown
Wellness is more than getting your check ups and cholesterol count. It is about balance and being the best you can be inside and out. I invited Joyce Brown to share her insights into making everyone a star.

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January Beauty Newsletter

Happy New Year and Happy Birthday to all Jan Birthday girls!

PRODUCT of the MONTH: 100% Aloe Vera Juice $25.70
Over 200 nutrients and rich in enzymes, vitamins and minerals. Helps with digestion,maintaining cardio health and immune sytmem. Can just go to http://www.dejoy.unfranchise.com/ and click on health and nutrition.

WEBSITE of th Month: http://www.tulipego.com/ This website has the cutest, most stylish laptop computers I have ever seen. The designs are just gorgeous and fresh.

THOUGHT of the Month: I have seen women lose a lot of weight and then start dressing soooo cute. I just want to say that if you have that confidence and self-esteem first you will lose weight soooo much faster.

SPOUSE tip of the Month: Ok last Month my hubby read my beauty newsletter and stole my tip of the Month before I could use it on him. He wrote a cute note to me on our bathroom mirror with my lipstick! So this Month I am going to steal his idea that he used to propose to me and share it with you all. It's called a "Love Hunt" and you place notes and small gifts in different places in and outside your home that your spouse has to find and follow the directions they all have to lead up to something big at the end. Have fun and be creative!

HEALTH tip of the Month: If you have made New Years resolutions to lose weight stick to it and know that it will be worth it in the end when you feel better, look better and have a new zest on life.

MAKEUP tip of the Month: These are some of the makeup items considered the "BEST" by makeup artists who use a ton of stuff continually.
Best Eyelash Curler: Shu Uemura $15
Best Mascara: L'oreal lash out $5.99
Best lip gloss: MAC lip glass $11.50
Best concealer: Cle de Peau Beaute Correcteur Visage $65
Best foundation: (I'm answering this one alone) and saying Motives custom blend foundation $40 I had to do that bcs most makeup artists have never heard of it bcs it is fairly new the industry. However this is the only liquid foundation I use bcs I have never seen anything better when it comes to matching someones skin color.

FASHION tip of the Month: How do you take clothes you already own and make them look more trendy? 1.A belt really adds to your jeans and can make them look like a whole different pair. 2.Take a long sleeved shirt and stick a short sleeved shirt with corresponding colors on the top.3.Try different accessories you have never tried with other things.4.Mix and match your clothes.5.Shirts with glitter on them is a good item to purchase.6.A faux fur piece is a good item to purchase.6. Target is a great place to get Extras.

POLL of the Month: Guess what is the biggest Month for people filing divorces? January (Do the spouse tip of the Month to keep the spice up.)

SALON/SPA of the Month: Be's Design 1451 Chambers rd. (Next to Jade nails)
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Childrens shampoo and style $25
Relaxers $55
Cut and Style $45
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TESTIMONIAL of the Month: This newsletter is fabulous! emailed in by Teresa Tilley, St.Charles MO

CONTEST of the Month: What is former President Bill Clintons middle name? (The 1st one to respond with the right answer receives a new cool eyeshadow for the New Year.)
Last Month's question and winner: What is so cool about starting a new year? Simply, it's a New Year. It's an opportunity to grow, to learn, experience and to share life and love with family, and loved ones. It's an opportunity to make a difference in lives I come in contact with, and another year to praise and give God the glory for the ability to see another blessed year.
SSG Elissa Barnes, Louisianna
(She is the proud winner of a bottle of TC amp weight loss supplement. I am sure she wants to thank her competition considering she did not have any. She was the only one that sent hers in so congrats to her.)

Love Joyce
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EMAIL me if you would like to recommend an "of the Month" category, especially for Salon/Spa of the Month. If you really feel like you get exceptional service or just want to give recognition to your salon email me. I will email a copy to your stylist, so he/she will feel appreciated that you even took a moment to nominate them.
EMAIL me if you would like this Monthly beauty newsletter to be sent to a different email address, to one of your friends or if you would like to be completely removed from my list.




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Dr. Homic is On The Air
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Forget Evening TV for one night
Get in a comfortable chair and get on your phone. Take a break from nighttime TV and let me inform and entertain you with Motivated By Madness.

You can listen in anonymously on the tele-seminar or you can join in the discussion.
We will focus on wellness issues that touch your lives on a daily basis.

Monday, Jan. 9 Topics:

• Introduction to Motivated By Madness
• How Madness Wins Over Common Sense
• New Years Resolutions: Why Are They Such A Joke?
• Stressed to be Faster: Faster Path to the Cemetary

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